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Potty training isn’t something you need to rush or “conquer” in a weekend–it’s a process, and the best approach is one that’s flexible, low-pressure, and focused on your child’s readiness.

Start by watching for signs across a few key areas: physical, motor, and communication development. You might notice they’re staying dry for longer stretches–at least a couple of hours during the day–or that their bowel movements are becoming more predictable, like often happening after meals. Many children will also start telling you when they’re going or show nonverbal cues like hiding in a corner or stoping mid-play to poop. And when they can pull down their pants and follow simple directions like “get your shoes and bring them to me,” those are great signs they’re ready to take the next step.

Just as important as your child’s readiness is your mindset going into it. Potty training doesn’t have to be all-or-nothing or done in a weekend. It’s okay to take your time, to pause and regroup, and expect setbacks along the way. There will be accidents–normalize them and focus on positive reinforcement when things go well. Plan to stay close to home for the first few days so your child can learn in a familiar environment, and remember: you can’t force them to go. Respecting their body autonomy is key to building long-term confidence (and avoiding power struggles).

Before you start, take time to prepare–both practically and emotionally. Read potty books together, let your child follow you into the bathroom, and invite them to flush or wash their hands to make the process feel familiar. Think through your plan: will you use a small potty or the big toilet with a seat? Stay home for a few days or go slow? Some families also find rewards helpful, but they’re optional. The most important thing is to keep it calm, consistent, and encouraging from the start.

If you’re looking for more support, the PedsDocTalk No-Pressure Potty Training Course includes helpful tips, scenarios, scripts, and proven parenting principles. And if you’re wondering whether your child is ready to start, download the free PedsDocTalk Potty Training Guide to check off the signs and feel more confident going in.

You’re not alone–ongoing diaper rashes can feel so frustrating, especially when you’re doing all the right things like frequent changes and applying creams. The truth is, some babies are just more prone to irritation, especially if they have naturally sensitive skin.

First, a little context: diaper rashes happen because moisture, friction, and irritants weaken the skin barrier. The best prevention starts with frequent diaper changes and applying ointment with every single change, not just when a rash shows up. The diaper ointment acts like a protective barrier. Think of it like frosting a cupcake–the thicker the better. For everyday use, barrier ointments like Aquaphor or Vaseline help protect healthy skin. But if you see any redness, start using an ointment with zinc oxide (like Triple Paste) to help heal and prevent further irritation. 

If you’re already doing these things and still stuck in a cycle, it may be worth looking at what kind of rash you’re dealing with. Some rashes are caused by yeast, which needs an antifungal treatment instead of typical barrier creams. And sometimes, switching products (wipes or diaper brand) can make a difference if there’s an underlying sensitivity.

Download the free PedsDocTalk Diapering and Diaper Rash Guide for a quick reference with more tips. And if you’re still unsure what kind of rash you’re seeing–or treatments to use or avoid–watch the PedsDocTalk YouTube Video.

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