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Food throwing is one of those toddler classics that’s part curiosity, part communication, and part boundary-testing. While it can be a phase, there are also simple things you can do to shift the dynamic without turning mealtimes into a battle.

Think of food throwing as a language. Sometimes it means “I’m overwhelmed,” or “I don’t want this,” or “What happens when I do this?” At the beginning of a meal, throwing might be their way of saying, “I’m not sure what to do,” especially with new foods. Instead of loading up the tray, try offering just a few pieces at a time, and consider holding them out for your child to grab. This gives them more control and helps the meal feel less overwhelming.

If they’re deep into the cause-and-effect stage, try a “no thank you” bowl or a designated corner of the tray. Say something like, “If you don’t want it, you can put it here,” while calmly modeling what you’d like them to do. You can also show them how to eat with an exaggerated “chomp chomp!” to spark interest without pressure.

When it’s clear they’re done (or just in a food-throwing mood), it’s okay to end the meal calmly and without a big reaction: “Looks like you’re all done. We’ll try again next time.” If they throw again right after you’ve set a limit, follow through with a neutral, “Throwing means we’re all done,” and move on. That clarity helps them learn what to expect.

It’s frustrating, but it’s not defiance, it’s learning. You’re helping them connect action with meaning, and with time and consistency, they’ll get there. It may take lots of repetition and patience, but those patterns do build…meal by meal, moment by moment.

Want more perspective on why toddlers throw food and how to respond? Check out this Instagram post for more tips to help without turning it into a power struggle.

First of all, this is such a relatable worry, especially with older kids in classrooms full of sniffles and coughs. While it’s not entirely possible to create a completely germ-free bubble (and not necessary!), there are ways to lower risk and protect your newborn during those early weeks.

Start with the basics: good hand hygiene goes a long way. Make hand-washing part of your after-school rhythm and before the big kids cuddle or hold the baby. You could say, “Let’s wash our hands really well so we’re all clean for baby snuggles!” It makes the moment feel like part of welcoming the baby, not a chore.

Teach gentle boundaries with love. Older siblings are often so excited and they want to give the baby kisses. A simple, “We kiss the toes!” helps keep it fun and sets clear limits. Avoiding face kisses, especially during cold season, can help reduce the spread of viruses.

If someone in the house does get sick, try to keep a little space until they’re feeling better, especially when it comes to coughs and runny noses.

And while it’s easy to worry, try to remember: your baby’s immune system is growing every day. You’re already thinking ahead, setting boundaries, and doing what you can. That kind of care goes a long way.

Want a little more support as you get ready for life with a newborn? This PedsDocTalk YouTube video walks through common questions, like germs from older siblings, errands, fevers, visitors, and more.

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